You did nothing wrong, and I expect, will do nothing wrong.

It's interesting to me that I went round-the-long-way via an intellectual discussion, to help me determine why it was bugging me. Which, in the end, was emotional.

Not to throw myself a stupid pity-party ("table for none, please"), but my reality was pretty aversive. In ways that are understandable, and yet strangely pervasive.

If I could wave a magic wand, I'd prevent anyone from feeling as my family did, ever. Even a simulation.

It's not a bad motive, but it's not always a helpful one.