is this the culture that is desired? Or is it the culture that is tolerated?
A fine question. The snarky answer is, of course, that the oddly-socialized are in the majority in the SCA and have constructed a culture to their liking which allows for a lot of the kind of social interaction that is proscribed in the World At Large. (Or perhaps that they WERE the majority and are hanging on to their construction for dear life, which perpetuates it even among the more clueful - it is not for nothing that people mention the age of the "creepy guys" with some regularity.)
I do not dispute that the SCA is a refuge of sorts for many, many people, myself among them. But for some it is a social refuge that allows them to continue in paths that have been disallowed elsewhere, for reasons that I personally think are appropriate.
Over time, I find that I "deal" with the creepy problem by avoiding the people, because that is the only sure-fire. But it doesn't solve the problem at its core, and it makes me resentful because I sometimes avoid places that I would rather not, because of their population.
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A fine question. The snarky answer is, of course, that the oddly-socialized are in the majority in the SCA and have constructed a culture to their liking which allows for a lot of the kind of social interaction that is proscribed in the World At Large. (Or perhaps that they WERE the majority and are hanging on to their construction for dear life, which perpetuates it even among the more clueful - it is not for nothing that people mention the age of the "creepy guys" with some regularity.)
I do not dispute that the SCA is a refuge of sorts for many, many people, myself among them. But for some it is a social refuge that allows them to continue in paths that have been disallowed elsewhere, for reasons that I personally think are appropriate.
Over time, I find that I "deal" with the creepy problem by avoiding the people, because that is the only sure-fire. But it doesn't solve the problem at its core, and it makes me resentful because I sometimes avoid places that I would rather not, because of their population.