We were complaining about this eighteen years ago and ten and five and... I'm not sure if people have gotten more conservative or rather that the culture has changed so people feel more empowered now to express their discomfort without worrying about sounding like an uptight idiot.
I say "word" to this quite strongly. Although I've only had some peripheral experience of the SCA, in general I would say from the vantage point of 40 years on this planet that, when I was in my late teens/early twenties, I got lots of unwanted hugs, backrubs, pats on the ass, etc., from guys (especially older guys) and was leery of saying anything because I didn't want to look like an uptight prude.
I am kind of heartened to see women fifteen or twenty years my junior who feel comfortable about stating their own personal-space boundaries clearly.
(Julia here, Justin, through the magic of Charley's friendslist, in case the LJname is unfamiliar.)
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I say "word" to this quite strongly. Although I've only had some peripheral experience of the SCA, in general I would say from the vantage point of 40 years on this planet that, when I was in my late teens/early twenties, I got lots of unwanted hugs, backrubs, pats on the ass, etc., from guys (especially older guys) and was leery of saying anything because I didn't want to look like an uptight prude.
I am kind of heartened to see women fifteen or twenty years my junior who feel comfortable about stating their own personal-space boundaries clearly.
(Julia here, Justin, through the magic of Charley's friendslist, in case the LJname is unfamiliar.)