The Laundry Roleplaying Game: Operative’s Handbook by by David F Chapman, Calum Collins, Christopher Colston, Alister Davison, Michael Duxbury, Warren Frey, Gareth Hanrahan, and Elaine Lithgow et al (Q4, 2025) 1 (50.0%)
The Laundry Roleplaying Game: Supervisor’s Guide by Anthony Boyd, Greg Buchanan, David F Chapman, Calum Collins, Christopher Colston, Alister Davison, Michael Duxbury, Warren Frey, Gareth Hanrahan, Derek Johnston, and Elaine Lithgow et al (Q4, 2025) 1 (50.0%)
You do know at least one person in the group needs both books, right? 1 (50.0%)
What went before: So, it turns out there's a Method to First Friday. It's advertised as "from" 5 (or 5:30; advertising is a little squishy on this point) to 7:30. What that means is that, some bands will be starting to set up around 5:00 and the restaurants will be open, so you should go have something to eat, nice glass of wine, and then, eh, 6/6:30ish, you perambulate around downtown, and then, around 7, you wander down to Head of Falls, where the music will be happening. Music starts at 7:30 and goes to 9/9:30.
Obviously, I did not make it that far, which is too bad because the band was the Atlanta Rhythm Section, which wouldn't have been terrible to listen to. There's a beer garden set up at Head of Falls for the concert and a food truck from The Proper Pig. And I kinda didn't want to be one old woman in a crowd of folks some of whom had had too much beer.
I did revisit the Langlais exhibit and took in the Dark Was the Night and Bright Were the Stars exhibit. I stopped by the reception -- yes, there were cookies and also fruits and cheese and crackers.
I meandered around downtown, and I found out that there's a rock store. Yes, a rock store; it's been there about three months, I'm told. I of course bought a rock (yeah, I know, but, hey! It's flourite, which is an amusing rock, in that it flouresces). I also stopped in Old Soul Supply, Oliver and Friends Bookstore, and Holy Cannoli, where I listened to a folk group for a couple of songs before I moved on, hoping for music in the Green Block, but -- not yet. So, I came home, educated and more or less relaxed for having done something different with my afternoon and early evening.
I have about 15 more pages of I Dare to finish proofing -- which I'll do tomorrow.
For now, the cats have had Happy Hour and I'm going to go pour myself a glass out of the Nice Bottle I opened last night to share with Steve.
And that's the First Friday Report.
Intermission: Oooh, nice echo of the prologue: "I won't hurt him."
And my favorite bit in the whole book, though there are so many good bits:
"My lifemate and my oathsworn are blameless. I claim all."
"Ever more terrifying," Val Con returned, lightly, deliberately, in the Low Tongue. "Pray reveal at once the horrific crimes of which they are innocent."
Saturday. Sunny and predicted to a nice-ish day.
Breakfast was toast and cottage cheese and grapes. Lunch will be something easy. I have choices, including a Door Dash account, if it comes down to desperation.
I did not sleep well last night; doubtless the late few days of High Living are catching up with me.
Today's to-do list includes one's duty to the cats, finishing the proofing of I Dare, swapping out cat fountains, and straightening up the house, which has become slightly shell-shocked, doubtless from the High Living referenced above. It's possible that I'll throw it all over and go back to bed, but not really likely.
My Solid Goal is to get back to the WIP -- remember the WIP? -- on Monday, so those things that must occur in service of that goal, including turning in the correx for I Dare, have to happen this weekend.
Arrived in yesterday's mail is news that the Subaru is included in a class action suit referencing failures in the EyeSight Driver Assistance subroutine. The suit appears to focus on the braking protocols, of which I have no complaint. I had hoped that it would be something to address the Concerning Issue of Eyesight turning itself off in downpours where human eyes are basically useless, and the pilot could really use some help staying on the road and not running into the back of a semi. OTOH, I haven't been to the website yet. That's actually pretty far down on the list.
Also, just at a tangent -- and I've made this argument before, so nothing new here -- if you (universal you) break the law, you must pay the penalty for breaking the law. It does not matter who you are, who your dad is, what political affiliation you hold, if you have fifteen houses or live in a cardboard box in an alley. Break the law, pay the price. That's, like, one of the foundations of our society: that money and influence do not alter the functioning of Law. This is why Justice is blind.
So, my second up of tea is gone, and I guess I'd better get to work.
I can't renew my LetsEncrypt certs on macOS 14.7.7 with certbot 4.1.1 from MacPorts, and it appears to be because Python 3.13 has lost the ability to load URLs. This works with 3.12 but 3.13 gets "Bad file descriptor":
Redbird and Cattitude and I just had a delightful night out, watching a play downtown. We reserved front-row lawn chairs at the Commonwealth Shakespeare Company outdoor production of As You Like it, which was just plain fun. Great chemistry, not just for the lead couple but between Rosalind and Celia. The fight scenes at the beginning were a wonderful mix of dancing and pro wrestling tropes. The show runs through August 10 and I recommend it.
Compared to the usual theater in the park, sitting on a picnic blanket and throwing some money in the collection basket, it was hideously expensive. But it was so much cheaper than the years of theater we've been missing out on because we were afraid to spend 3 hours in a crowded theater with lousy ventilation and a bunch of people with covid. It was even cheaper than the park performances we missed because not all the hips and knees in the family were up for sitting on the ground or in the kind of folding chair we could carry to the park.
The three of us went to a play tonight: As You Like It, on Boston Common, presented by the Commonwealth Shakespeare Company. My beloveds bought seats in "tall" (normal-height) chairs for me and Cattitude, and a shorter chair for Adrian; the company sells a few of these in advance, an rents out additional short chairs while supplies last, for people who don't want to sit on the ground, which is free.
The weather was excellent for this, except that I was underdressed because it cooled off sooner than I'd expected. At intermission, I went over to the merchandise booth and bought a blanket. The blankets are intended mostly for sitting on, but I wrapped it around myself, over my hoodie, and draped it over my legs for warmth.
It's a good production, in a straightforward way. I liked the use of music, and the clowning and the choreographed fight scenes were good.
Today I just realized that All in the Family ISN'T just plain invisible or "Error 404" when people reach it. People see the takedown notice and since I very obviously don't do photorealistic art, kinda the only conclusion to draw is that my work is "Content glorifying sexual violence" or "minors, minor-presenting, or suggested minors in a sexual context."
This is incredibly degrading. This might be more humiliating than getting shadowbanned from Gumroad for Cultiples, and that was pretty damn crummy.
I make mental health work about sexual trauma. It's bad for business to have "minors in a sexual context" as code for "child pornography" anywhere near me professionally, even if you ignore that this is, again, a memoir about how incest fucked me up. The whole point is that it's awful! Josie Riesman called it "one of the most brutal and engaging comics I’ve ever read." Tarun Athmika did a whole fucking paper on the politics of implication in (among other things) All in the Family, and how bans of discussion of oppression supports that oppression! Holy shit, he couldn't have been more prescient had he tried!
I've still heard nothing from itch.io. I ordered my payout a week ago and it's still "in review." I don't know if I'm going to get paid. The idea that I might get pedojacketed, AGAIN, for totally nonsense reasons is...
I don't know what it is.
This never used to happen to me until 2023, and now it's becoming normal to me. This is just life to me now. And I feel stupidly naive that it took this long to happen; it feels like it was always going to.
At least I can take comfort that the Banned Book Sale is going well. But god, I would've way rathered never throwing one.
Seattle Worldcon is looming in a week and a half and I'll be there! I'll be rooming with Heather, who's also on the Hugo ballot so that'll be fun. I am beginning to make dinner and other plans so if you want to hang out with me or talk projects with me or both, now's a good time to schedule. What kind of projects? Well, hiring me for things like commissioning stories and articles, signing me up to teach classes, coach or do editing and writing projects would all be swell. I know a lot about book marketing and sales and the publishing process, just saying. And I'm an award-winning writer who's good with deadlines.
On the directly related to Queen of Swords Press front: I'm reading some fine queer horror and dark fantasy and historical fantasy subs and am awaiting at least one more for this year. But we are light on queer science fiction and I'd like to fill that gap, ideally with novel length work. It will be very, very helpful to be familiar with at least some of our existing titles. I have fairly idiosyncratic tastes and I drive what gets selected. Anything much over 90k words is a hard sell for POD and anything slow-moving is a hard sell for me. We are also a "fly by the seat of our pants" operation, which while it is totally on me, also has helped us be flexible enough to outlast many, many other presses. But this is not everyone's speed and I get it. What does the future hold? Who knows? We're still here right now and making stuff happen. Reach out to me here if you don't have the QoSP email. We are not officially open to subs so this is on an invite basis.Talk to me first.
Numerous genre traits, characteristics, and stereotypes have been molded into the modern idea of the villain, and many such quirks are directly tied to stereotypes of the LGBTQ+ community—but why? Is it because the status quo fears the growing acceptance of the LGBTQ+ community, or because the status quo has always excluded and oppressed these individuals? Let’s break it down and discuss ways we creatives can alter that message for positive change regarding this misconception, even in the darkest of genre fiction.
Dr. Heather O. Petrocelli (M), Catherine Lundoff, David Demchuk, Sumiko Saulson, The Grand Arbiter
Friday:
Table Talks - You do need to sign up for these beforehand - limit of 6 per talk Room 430, –
Have an intimate discussion (up to six participants) with your favorite creators. Advance sign-up is required (sign-up info coming soon).
Brandon O’Brien, Cassie Alexander, Catherine Lundoff, Daphne Singingtree, F. J. Bergmann, Melinda M. Snodgrass
Blue Moon. Blue Moon is the third novel in Catherine’s Wolves of Wolf’s Point series, about a group of women from different backgrounds who turn into werewolves as they enter menopause. Blue Moon picks up where Blood Moon left off and traces the origins of the Wolf’s Point Pack. The books are sapphic dark fantasy.
Joanna Russ, author of The Female Man, wrote some of the most radical fiction of the 1960s and 1970s. The Female Man has remained consistently in print and is one of the most experimental and challenging books of our genre. This panel will discuss her short stories and novels and their effects.
Sue Burke (M), Catherine Lundoff, Langley Hyde, Michael Swanwick, Rich Horton
I'll also be at the Liminal Fiction table in the Dealer's Room selling my and other folk's books on Friday from 1-2PM and Saturday 1-2PM.
What else have I been up to?
Some passive job hunting through contracting companies
Accepted an invite to do grant reviewing again in November (pays a stipend)
Followed up on numerous things that needed following up on
Read 1.5 submissions
Did some writing and made a writing date for tomorrow
Worked on my developmental editing certificate class
Laundry and cleaning things out, like old files and things that need to be emptied before I can sell them
Selling more of Jana's tools
Prepping for Worldcon
Went with friends to see the alebrijes sculptures at Raspberry Island, the current art show at the Cafejian Art Trust in Shoreview, the weird Renaissance show at the MIA and "Glensheen: The Musical" at the History Theater and by myself to the Minneapolis American Indian Center to see the queer/two spirit art show at Two Rivers Gallery.
Diagnosed a plumbing issue and ordered parts to fix it.
Followed up on some Jana-related things including turning over an unfinished project to the people it should have gone to originally, networking with her former boss about selling some of her bindings and finding more things for the Minnesota Center for Book Arts to sell in the Shop at Open Book.
Starting to get some ducks in a row for talk and class proposals.
Research for the article I have due soonish.
Okay, that was a lot. Hang in there, folks. It's Friday.
Heads up, y'all; on account of having my psychological murder memoir banned as child pornography, I am throwing a Banned Book Sale to help compensate for the loss! Enjoy! And now for the usual poll announcement:
Hey everybody, it's that time again: time to vote for which stuff gets the LiberaPay/Patreon money this month!
As always, anyone can vote (please do!), but LiberaPay and Patreon patrons get double weight for their votes. (Due to Patreon's porn purges, I really encourage you to use LiberaPay, if you get a choice.) If you want to see the blurbs for any of these works, those are here! (You can also leave your requests there; requesting a story or essay is always free!) If you don't have a DW and so can't do the poll, that's okay; just leave your vote in the comments below; anon comments are turned on.
Which works gets the money, and thus posted this month? YOU CHOOSE, readers!
Thursday I attended one of Menlo's lectures, an introduction to vocal chamber music, prefatory to a concert of some I'll be attending on Sunday.
The lecture was given by the noted tenor Nicholas Phan (pronounced Pan, not Fan), who won't be performing on Sunday but who did illustrate his lecture with projected videos of himself performing works from throughout the history of the repertoire: not live, so he wouldn't have to wrangle on stage all the instrumentalists he was performing with.
Like the lecture on wind chamber music I attended last week (which I didn't describe here, but maybe later), it was divided into two parts: before the 19th century, when there was a kind of hole in the repertoire, and afterwards.
The hole came when the piano developed around 1800 into an instrument capable of virtuoso expressive shading, and the art song with piano became the default vocal chamber music genre. Before that time, music with a consort of lute and viol and other instruments was common. Phan spent a lot of time on the Baroque genre of the cantata, which is not just a sacred music form by Bach as we tend to think of it today; in fact Bach and other Lutheran composers had appropriated what was originally a secular form.
A cantata was typically 15-25 minutes long and consisted of a sequence of numbers in a variety of moods or styles for a single singer, often telling a story. What was really interesting was Phan's description of the revival of the cantata form in recent years, and he had a notable example of it.
It was by Viet Cuong, an American composer whose work I'm familiar with, as he was the composer in residence at the California Symphony a few years back. The title is A Moment's Oblivion, and the ensemble is of Baroque instruments: oboe, violin, viola da gamba, and harpsichord. Its story concerns a man who has lost his memory, but his family find a doctor who is able to restore it. This number presents the man, who - like Buffy after she's returned from the dead in the sixth season - turns out not to be pleased about his restoration. He was happier in bliss without memories.
Here's Phan singing the number. I thought it was a really striking piece of contemporary music.
Last time I saw my hairstylist, she had just bought four chicks and was embarking on a lifestyle of backyard chicken-keeping. She told me all their names. It was sweet.
Turns out chick-sexing is an imperfect art. Over the intervening month, she started to hear one of the birds crowing, but it took a while to figure out which one. It was Dottie.
My stylist called everybody she knew out in the county until she found someone who was both interested in rooster and zoned for rooster. When she was carrying Dottie out to the car to take him to his new home, he crowed a goodbye at the coop as they passed.
Out of the coop they heard some farewell cackling. And more crowing.
There are plenty of laws and regulations meant to protect fish. See, e.g., “United States v. 1855.6 Pounds of American Paddlefish Meat” (Nov. 14, 2018). And possibly also bees, if you think bees are fish. See “California Supreme Court: We Don’t Think Bees Are Fish” (Sept. 23, 2022). But violating most of these would generally result in a fine, not imprisonment. How flagrant do fishing-law violations have to be to result in a six-year prison term? This flagrant.
According to the CBC, last week a court in British Columbia sentenced a man “with the longest record of Fisheries Act violations in Canadian history” to six years in prison. Scott Steer was found guilty in January of illegally harvesting and selling sea cucumbers, which I now see are not “fish” but rather echinoderms like the somewhat less misleadingly named starfish.
Sea cucumbers generally have “a soft and cylindrical body, rounded off and occasionally fat in the extremities,” and also like the President have only a rudimentary nervous system. They are fleshy bottom-feeders that use tentacles to scoop up the detritus they eat, making them more disgusting than many aquatic species but not the hagfish, no, definitely not that. See “The Octopus: Honorary Vertebrate?” (May 20, 2015) (digressing to express disgust with and even animosity toward the hagfish); see also “THIS AGAIN (Hereinafter, ‘This’)” (Mar. 23, 2022) (digressing to compare something else I hate to a hagfish). But though they are not “fish,” the taking of sea cucumbers is limited by the Canadian Fisheries Act.
Scott Steer could not care less about the Canadian Fisheries Act.
Steer was arrested in 2020 after someone reported “what appeared to be illegal crab harvesting” near Vancouver. When a Department of Fisheries boat approached to inquire, Steer reacted as any innocent crab harvester would, by initiating a “high-speed boat chase” during which he hurled his phone into the sea. Predictably, he did not escape. A search of his home revealed “all kinds of fishing gear,” incriminating documents, and a sh*tload of dried sea cucumbers, all illegally harvested.
It turns out that while sea cucumbers are arguably disgusting, but at least don’t have teeth like a hagfish, they are considered a delicacy by some. This means they can be sold for upwards of $100 a pound, according to the report.
Evidence at trial showed Steer sold 88,000 pounds of them.
He was convicted on all eight charges he faced, not just the sea-cucumbering charges themselves but also charges that he violated prior orders banning him from owning a fishing boat or even fishing gear. Because in no way was this Steer’s first illegal-fishing venture.
According to the sentencing order, Steer has been convicted of 34 counts in 13 other cases dating back to 2008, and had been warned and ticketed several times before that. The order summarizes the evidence in what it calls “Steer #1” through “Steer #13,” and notes that Steer victimized not only sea creatures but also vessel owners and crews over the years, compiling a remarkable record of nautical badness. Penalties escalated, eventually including short jail terms, as Steer continued this conduct and defied court orders. In 2016, a judge banned him from fishing for 22 years, and after he ignored that, in 2021 another judge made it a lifetime ban. But high-speed boat chases and 88,000 pounds of sea cucumbers suggest he has been less than compliant.
In fact, the court said in its order, Steer was out poaching sea cucumbers during breaks from his trial for poaching sea cucumbers. This apparently came to light after a customer complained that some of the 4,496 pounds of sea cucumbers Steer sold him while on trial for sea-cucumber poaching were “slimy and smelled bad.” Steer texted back blaming the truck driver and offering a discount. “What’s those Cukes worth?” he wrote, appallingly, and said that if they could reach an agreement he had another “80,000 lbs left” to sell. This evidence, the court suggested, “undermine[d] Mr. Steer’s claim” at trial that he had “turned [over] a new leaf” and was no longer poaching.
Given this record, it’s surprising that the sentence was only six years. Apparently “post-offence misconduct” could not be considered aggravating factors directly adding to the sentence, but the court did find it relevant to whether Steer would likely comply with an order short of imprisonment (answer: no), and “indicated the unlikelihood of remorse or rehabilitation, now or in future.” Also relevant: the scale and sophistication of his operation; his “consistent subterfuge, use of proxies, and stealth,” aliases and shell companies; and evidence that Steer “fully recognized and even exulted in the criminality of his actions,” as the court found “encapsulated in his text message” to a crony reading “it’s all illegal lol.”
The court found no mitigating factors applied.
Saying this was an “unprecedented” situation amongst regulatory-breach cases, the court got out its thesaurus for the order’s conclusion. “Multifarious,” “brazen,” “destructive,” “calculated,” “stealthy,” “incorrigible,” “ungovernable recidivist,” “belligerently … unrepentant,” and “exhibits active contempt for the concept of lesser punishment” all made an appearance. None of this was good news for Steer:
Mr Steer considers himself unbound by laws. His deliberate deception and illegal fishing shows contempt for the fragile and finite marine resources and ecosystems. He shows contempt for the fishermen who follow the rules. He shows contempt for the laws of Parliament and the orders of the Court. He shows contempt for the efforts of past courts to steer him towards an honest path through less severe sanctions that rely on his honesty and compliance. The only way to stop Mr Steer from ravaging the ocean and flouting the law and court orders is to move him far from the sea for a long period of time.
The order doesn’t say where Steer will be moved to, but looking at a map I’m guessing western Saskatchewan.
New story out today in Clarkesworld: A Shaky Bridge ! This one is more directly referential to current events than most of my science fiction, while also drawing on my experience with my dad having strokes. So this is not the most happy-clappy upbeat story I've ever written...but it is one that I feel good about having out there, and I hope you'll like it too.
Monday: We had B's orthodontist appointment at 9 AM. His Invisalign are working really well to add room between his teeth, and he's being really responsible about wearing them and not losing them. He lost two teeth in the last 10 days, and the new ones are coming right in. We swung by his school's garden and watered it before heading home. I had a technician coming to the house to install some fibre cables (Telus, changing away from Shaw/Rogers - these are the only two options here). He was here from about 11:30 to 2:30 or 3, I think? There are a HECK fewer cords running behind my couch and TV now, which is lovely, and once the phone also gets switched from Shaw to Telus, that will be even fewer cords. That should be accomplished by Friday, but it's now Friday and it hasn't happened yet. We'll see how that goes. They also forgot to set up the Could PVR, but a service person called me on Tuesday and let me know they'd be setting that us. The sucky part of Cloud PVR is that material is held only for 90 days. Truthfully, I can understand this from a storage capacity standpoint, and if I haven't watched something in 3 months then I must not have really truly wanted to see it that much. OTOH, limits are annoying!
Tuesday: Mini-golf day! Mini-golf with two people takes less than an hour. We went to a place in Richmond, so only ~11 minutes away from home, and it was just about lunchtime when we were done. I took us to the mall, as I wanted to stop by Pandora to get some stuff cleaned and possibly by a few more little pieces for a necklace. After looking at their supply and the cost of things, I decided I didn't care enough to add more to it, so left after the cleaning. We headed up to the food court for lunch: Benito got a bubble waffle (mmm, living off of carbs?) and I got a veggie stir-fry and the type of spring roll that's a cold salad wrapped in rice paper (Thai). We were both satisfied, and I had half my stir-fry as the basis for my dinner. This is what I would consider a pretty minimal day of activity, but oh well, it's vacation.
Wednesday: B's summer camp that he wasn't attending this week was going to Plant Lazer, and he really wanted to do that too. We invited a few of his friends and he and R were there for 2 games (took about an hour). They had fun, and then B and I came home and had lunch. We had chill time until I took B to his friend G's for a sleepover, in their tent! We have our tent set up in our backyard and he loves sleeping in it, and we've had G over to sleep in it also. They invited B to check out their 3-room tent; he also got a nice air mattress and an extension cord so they could have electronics in the tent!! Crazy. I later learned that basically, they set up the tent and then played on their computers together until around 11 PM. B even forgot to eat dinner. *deep sigh*
Thursday: Picked B up from G's house, left around 9:45. Dropped his laptop at home, got him some books for the drive, went to the Vancouver Aquarium. Bought a membership for the two of us (dammit, WILL go back a few times throughout the year!), spent 3.5 hrs. It was delightful. Actually took some time to look at things, not quite the frenetic pace as in years past. He got a Screamer (blue raspberry with chocolate soft-serve) and we watched the training session with the sea lions. I hadn't had lunch so on the way home I got Chickpea: checkpea fries and schnitzelonim pita. I ate the fries and saved the pita for dinner. I regret getting this and not a rice or hummus platter instead, because there was hidden, unannounced banana pepper in the salad mix in the pita. I ended up scrapping the pita itself and all the insides save the slices of sweet potato they add. Better luck next time.
Friday: B really wanted a stay-at-home day, so today is the most chill. I bought us movie tickets for this evening to see The Bad Guys 2 in the theater, which he's psyched to see. We watched The Bad Guys movie on Tuesday night and it was pretty good. I was minorly annoyed at it being only tangentially related to the book series, but I understand why the author was fine with it: it was definitely true to the characters and the main themes, while being (in my mind) a completely different story. Different medium, different story, right? *sigh* I don't think I've seen a full preview of the next one, but I'm sure it will be entertaining, and I paid for most of the tickets with Scene Points (i.e. reward points), so this is all fine. (I'm thinking about getting myself the monthly movie pass/subscription, to encourage myself to go to the theater more, because I really like watching movies and I'm fairly sure there should be at least 1 movie a month I'd be willing to see on the big screen.)
I did a tiny bit of work on Monday, as I knew I had some lingering emails from Friday that really deserved responses. I also went in and booked the conference centre for our Teacher Education Forum we typically hold on October, as I started talking about that/was supposed to do that in June. Now (next week) I can invite our speakers to join us. I did a tiny bit of synagogue volunteering as well; as the chair of the Hebrew School committee, there was a bit to do in July, and in August I'll be meeting with the rabbi and discussing more, as well as attending my first board meeting! I hear they're chaotic and either amusing or frustrating; I'll find out next Tuesday.
Shabbat will be shabbat: we go to services, have lunch there, come home and chill out. Sunday: it's the Ladner Farm Market, so we could go there for brunch/lunch and get our cookies from our friend who runs a bakery from her home. I'd like to go to a community centre and pick up his Summer Activity Pass (or whatever it's called) and actually get us to a pool once or twice in August. He loves it, and I haven't actually been in a pool in quite a while.
This is the first part of the third part of our series (I, II) discussing the patterns of life of the pre-modern peasants who made up the great majority of all humans who lived in our agrarian past and indeed a majority of all humans who have ever lived.1 Last week, we looked at death, examining the brutal mortality regime of pre-modern societies, typified by extremely high (c. 50%) infant and child mortality, very high maternal mortality and often high male military mortality, which kept life expectancy at birth as low as the mid twenties, while life expectancy at adulthood was better – around 50 – but still very low by modern standards.
This week and next, we’ll start working out some of the consequences of this mortality regime, looking at family formation which in these pre-modern agrarian societies means marriage. While the intense variability of mortality meant that peasant households came in a variety of single- and multi-family forms, pre-modern agrarian societies generally had strict and rigid expectations for marriage: in nearly all of these societies everyone got married and was expected to get around to having children because the community required them rather than necessarily because they wanted to.
So this week we’re going to look at marriage patterns, particularly the question of age at first marriage. Then next week, we’re going to turn to the implications those patterns have for child-bearing and child-rearing. The family and the household were the fundamental institutions of everyday life for pre-modern people, so understanding their structures and assumptions is crucial for understanding the rest of life in these past societies.
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Marriage, Marriage is What Brings Us Together, Today
Mawwiage, mawwiage is what brings us together, today. No, I will not apologize for this joke.
We begin with marriage as the first step in family formation (though not necessarily household formation, as we’ll see). Whereas the pre-modern mortality regime is broadly consistent over different cultures, marriage patterns (nuptiality) vary significantly. Very nearly all human cultures practice something we can identify as marriage, the mostly-permanent pair-bonding of individuals to create a new family (but not necessarily household) unit into which new children are born. Different cultures, even in the pre-modern world, differ notably on the rate of marriage (though it is, in all cases, by modern standards very high, for reasons which will become clear), its timing, and the presence or absence of polygamy.
Before we get into those variables though, we need to make a very important point: we are talking about peasants. Remember peasants? This is a post about peasants.
The marriage patterns of high elites in a society are often quite different from the marriage patterns of most of the society. The classic example of this is to note that students are often mislead by European aristocrats in the medieval and early modern periods marrying very young and so they assume that everyone in medieval Europe married very young, but in fact, as we’ll see in a moment, medieval western Europe is notable for very late (mid-twenties for women, late twenties for men) typical age at first marriage among the general population. The very wealthy do not marry under the same economic constraints and incentives as the enormous majority (upwards of 90%) of the population living as peasant farmers or even the smaller subset working in cities or having specialized trades or so on. Indeed it is very common for elites in pre-industrial societies to marry much younger than non-elites, because of the different pressures (family alliances, the need for heirs, the lack of direct economic pressure) placed on those marriage decisions.
Via the British Museum (1871,1209.934) a contemporary woodcut of the marriage of Maria Theresa and Francis I, c. 1736. Maria Theresa was 19, Francis 28. As we’ll see, Maria Theresa was still relatively young by the marriage pattern that obtained amongst the commons in this period (the late/late ‘Western European marriage pattern’), but she had been betrothed (but obviously not married) even younger, briefly to Charles III of Spain when she was just eight. Elite marriage patterns do not always match non-elite marriage patterns in a given society at a given time.
And this has an immediate implication for us when it comes to another one of our three variables: polygamy – or more correctly polygyny, since we are effectively always in this context referring to the practice of one man having multiple wives, not the other way around.2 Polygamy occurs as a social practice in quite a lot of societies (though it is somewhat scarcer in agricultural societies than non-agricultural societies), but within societies, it is a practice generally restricted to the wealthy, who have the resources to keep multiple families. Even in polygamous societies, most families and households are monogamous, for what should be fairly obvious reasons. There are, after all, a roughly even number of men and women, so each polygamous marriage means another male who cannot marry and societies that generate massive numbers of unmarriagable young men with no prospects don’t tend to be very stable (especially if they also need the labor of those men in the fields). So even in societies where polygamy was highly normalized, it would represent only a minority subset of marriages (to judge from modern statistics, ‘about a third’ is a decent rule of thumb) and in many societies where polygamy was accepted it was rarer still. Often this is in the form of societies where rulers or high elites might take concubines or secondary spouses, but not the common folk. And then, of course, you have societies where polygamy was not accepted, which includes my own study of the Romans, who were, as Bruce Frier puts it, “relentlessly monogamous.”3
The impact of class thus provides us a useful simplification: we can focus on monogamous marriages. After all, in many of our societies, monogamy is the only game in town and in the rest only the richest peasants are likely to have multiple wives and so on either event, the modal peasant family is monogamous. And, to be frank, that’s also useful for me because I study the Romans – again, “relentlessly monogamous” – and have better grounding in medieval Europe (where polygamy was banned) and ancient Greece (where it was extremely rare).4 If we wanted to get into family patterns for polygamous households, we’d probably need to bring in someone who specializes in those cultures.
But overall, I want to stress that it is a mistake to assume that the marriage behaviors of highly historically visible people – like monarchs, high nobles, senators and so on – are indicative of the marriage patterns of regular people. Instead, we need evidence of the marriage patterns of our social stratum – the bottom 90-odd percent of people – which can create some challenges, because those people are not generally historically visible to us.
With that said, on to…
Marriage Patterns
In terms of demographics, when we talk about marriage patterns, we’re thinking in terms of a few key variables: age at first marriage (AAFM) for both females and males (the focus tends to be on the former) and the percentage of people (again, the focus tends to be on women) married at a given age, which also ties into the existence or non-existence of a ‘spinster’ or ‘bachelor’ class (women and men who simply never marry). Culturally, I’d add to this calculation the acceptability and prevalence of divorce.
The variables differ substantially (but within a range) from one culture to another. To understand why, we need to return to mortality as our ‘forcing function’ on social organization. We’ll be coming back to some of these points when we talk about fertility next week, but the mortality rate for pre-modern societies is very high, thus necessitating a lot of births, but it is not so high that societies need to approach a maximum ‘natural fertility’ (the birth rate using absolutely no means of birth control) to hit replacement and slow growth. But these are also peasant households with significantly constrained resources. So the question becomes how to restrain fertility to a high, but not maximum level and there are basically two options: eithercontrol fertility within marriage or delay the age of first marriage (for females). Naturally these two strategies are not mutually exclusive and could be combined to an extent (so long as it doesn’t push the birth rate below the high level required for replacement).
We can think of these strategies by breaking them into simple models, but before we do that, I want to hit the necessary caveat that we’re talking here about statistical averages not individual families. If we say the mean AAFM for women is 20, that doesn’t mean every 21-year-old is married or that every 19-year-old is single; we’re representing a range. And we’re going to start with women and loop back around to men.
Richard Saller proposed three such models – he termed them ‘early’ ‘middle’ and ‘late’ – as a way of testing the data from Roman inscriptions and I think they provide a decent window into the potential different models here and also have the happy advantage of separating the names of the patterns from assumptions about where those patterns existed (though we’ll talk about that too).5 I also really like calling these models ‘early’ ‘middle’ and ‘late’ because it gets us some distance from geographic naming models which may not, as we’ll see, be accurate in all periods.6
I should note, because you will encounter these terms elsewhere that the late male/early female marriage pattern that we see in Greece is termed by John Hajnal the ‘Mediterranean type,’ which is awkward because it is not clear all Mediterranean societies in the past followed it, while an early male/early female model (in which ‘early male’ here means mean AAFM around 20, not around 15, so there is still an age gap) is termed the ‘eastern type.’ There is also a ‘western European marriage pattern’ we’ll get to in a moment – but I am avoiding these geographic labels because they strike me as a form of question begging7 since we do not know the historical marriage patterns in all of these places and assuming they follow a simplistic three-part geographic model is perilous.
Now my expertise in this sort of historical demographics is really restricted to the broader Mediterranean world (to include western and central Europe) but fortunately all three patterns occur in that geographic space, so we can have an example of each, but I want to be clear that I probably cannot tell you with any confidence which pattern is common in any given place and time outside of that broader Mediterranean world. No one can know everything.
Via Wikipedia, a 7th century Byzantine wedding ring now in the Louvre, showing Christ presiding over the marriage ceremony, joining the bridge and groom.
An Early Pattern: Ancient Greece
My sense is that Saller’s ‘early’ pattern is often thought to be the most common among pre-modern peasant populations and sometimes forms the default assumption of those societies. I am simply not familiar enough with the evidence for pre-modern marriage patterns outside of Europe and the Mediterranean to offer a view as to if this ‘default’ assumption is correct.8In the early pattern, females begin marrying almost immediately after menarche, in their early to late teens. The mean age of first marriage for females in this model tends to be around 16 and marriage rates for societies under this model are generally very high: virtually all women marry. Fertility control (discussed next week) thus has to happen within marriage, not by delaying its onset.
In the Mediterranean, this ‘early’ marriage pattern seems to have been common in the poleis of ancient Greece, although we must note that the evidence here is quite limited. While older scholarship,9 tended to assume that we could use the Roman marriage pattern for Greece, work in the mid-1990s and onward, particularly by Sarah Pomeroy has tended to show an AAFM for ancient Greek girls around 15.10 By contrast, male AAFM is substantially older, roughly thirty. Marriage in ancient Greece was functionally invariably arranged: women were legally incapable of arranging their own marriages and Greek marriage rituals do not appear to include even superficial nods to bridal consent.11 My sense is that this extreme dearth of legally and socially recognized female agency is typical of societies with very early marriage patterns.
An Intermediate Pattern? Rome
The next pattern is Saller’s intermediate pattern, where female AAFM begin marrying in their mid-to-late teens with an average AAFM around 20. Although there remains some lingering uncertainty and debate on this point, Saller argues that the Romans followed this intermediate pattern and my sense is that this remains the consensus view, though substantial uncertainty still exists.12 While Roman law permitted marriage very young – the legal minimum age at marriage was 12 for girls and 14 for boys – the observed marriage pattern outside of the elite (who married significantly younger) seems to have been marriages starting around 14 or 15, but with the mean AAFM for females close to 20. For men, the evidence suggests even later marriage ages, with only a few men marrying in their teens but the bulk of men marrying in the mid-to-late 20s and a AAFM for males around thirty.13
Via the British Museum (1917,0501.276) a Roman ring showing the dextratum iunctio, the joining of hands as part of a wedding ceremony.
While this isn’t the place to get into all of the details, one reason I find the concept of an intermediate model for the Romans distinctly plausible is that, as pre-modern patriarchal societies go,14 Roman women occupied, from a legal and social standpoint, a remarkably favorable position. While intense social pressure must have meant that a bride’s consent was generally a formality (‘non-objection’ was taken as consent), bridal consent was legally required in Roman marriage in a way that we have no sense it was so required in Greek marriage. Likewise, Roman women, at least by the second century BC, had the right to initiate divorce on a ‘no fault’ legal basis (that is, for any reason or no reason). Roman women were legal persons in Roman law, in a way that at least Athenian women (and we usually assume Greek women generally) appear not to have been under Greek law codes. Roman women could and did hold property, something that, for instance, Athenian women could not do. All of that seems consistent with a social regime which, while still very patriarchal by modern standards, had a less instrumental approach to its women, who in turn had somewhat more control over their own lives, and thus might modestly delay female AAFM.
Interestingly, the data from Roman Egypt, seems to suggest a marriage regime that might have fit between the Roman intermediate and Greek early models. The evidence for Roman Egypt is meaningfully better and Bagnall and Frier’s (op. cit.) data suggests a female AAFM of 17-18, with marriages starting very young (as early as 12), rising steeply in the late teens and being nearly universal by 30 – a bit older than Greece and a bit younger than Saller’s model for marriage in Roman Italy.15
Which leaves…
A Late Pattern: Early Modern (and Late Medieval?) Western Europe
What remains is a ‘late’ female marriage pattern, with an average AAFM for women in the mid-twenties. To my knowledge, the only instance of that pattern before the industrial revolution is in Europe. Termed the ‘Western European marriage pattern‘ and advanced as a theory by John Hajnal, it has attracted attention because of course any way in which Western Europe was unusual in the early modern period attracts attention as part of the ‘Why Europe?’ question which dominates the early modern and modern periods. The ‘Western European marriage pattern’ is, in effect a late/late pattern (that is, late for both males and females) in which female AAFM is around 25 and male AAFM is around 30.
Some caveats are immediately necessary. While Hajnal proposed this marriage pattern to prevail over most of Europe west of the ‘Hajnal line’ (which cuts through what is today Poland, the Czech Republic, Austria to hit the Adriatic in northern Italy), to my knowledge the pattern is clearest in Britain (but not Ireland) and along the Channel (Northern France and the Low Countries) with a lot more variation in the rest of Western Europe. Meanwhile, my understanding is that the ‘bright line’ distinction implied by the ‘Hajnal line’ in the East has been substantially eroded by more detailed scholarship, with the case for a single, clear and consistent ‘Eastern European type’ of marriage and family formation coming apart as it fails to meet the complexity of the evidence.16 All of which makes me – quite far outside of my specialty – very hesitant to hold forth on the geographic extent of the pattern or variation within it.
Nevertheless, this late pattern clearly existed, particularly in Britain and the Netherlands: the early modern period provides significantly more robust evidence to make that assessment, with much of the uncertainty of the previous sections melting away under the weight of detailed records. The marriage pattern here comes alongside a bunch of other notable differences. First, under this marriage pattern, a significant percentage of both men and women never marry, on the order of a quarter or a third, compared to the 90+% marriage rates under the other marriage patterns.
The second has to do with household formation: whereas in most pre-modern agrarian family patterns, the assumption is that a newly married couple remains a part of an existing household (usually the groom’s) after marriage, the late/late pattern is associated with newly married couples immediately forming a new household. The term for that is neolocal residence, the cultural pattern and assumption, likely familiar to most readers, that a newly married couple moves out of their parents’ houses into a new dwelling and a new household of their own.
Now, as noted this pattern is really well documented for early modern Britain and the Low Countries, but naturally that raises (not begs) the question of how far back that pattern goes and – because it is such an unusual pattern – what caused it. It is difficult not to see at least some of the pattern, particularly the increased prevalence of never-married individuals, as at least partially connected to Christian teachings; Geoffrey S. Nathan notes the fairly clear early connection in Late Antiquity between Christianity and both an increased status for women to remain widows and not remarry if their husband died or, in some cases (far less than in the late/late pattern) lifelong celibacy.17 Delayed marriage also would obviously function as a form of fertility control in the contexts of societies – and this is true of nearly all agrarian pre-industrial societies – where sex outside/before marriage was intensely discouraged. As we’re going to see next time, even under the pre-modern mortality regime, some form of fertility control was both possible and also clearly practiced. In the context of a culture perhaps unwilling to practice fertility control within the context of marriage, delaying marriage may have allowed for the same outcome. Finally, it is worth noting – this was in the footnotes of the previous part – it is possible that the mortality regime in early modern Europe was somewhat less harsh.18 If that was the case, households looking to avoid expanding too rapidly might delay marriage for the same fertility control reasons.
But then how far back does this pattern go? After all, if this is purely a modern pattern, we might dismiss it, though that would raise some significant secondary questions, since the early centuries of the modern period were not all that different in terms of agricultural production or medical technology than the pre-modern period (the radical breakpoint in standards of living is the industrial revolution in the 19th century, not the arrival of ‘modernity’ in the 16th). Now the challenge of course is that the evidence for the Middle Ages is much weaker, getting dramatically weaker the further back you go. Now medieval demography is not my field, but my sense is that at least in England, we can see evidence of the early modern late/late marriage pattern pushing back at least to 1500 and quite possibly as early as 1300, suggesting that the ‘western European’ model may, in fact, project back in some form into the late Middle Ages.
Marriage and the Individual
To recap all of that, one way we can classify marriage systems is by the typical age at first marriage (AAFM), with the common combinations in the pre-modern world being (expressed as female/male): early/early, early/late (as we see in Greece), and intermediate/late (as in Rome). The oddball is the pattern in parts of early modern and perhaps late medieval western Europe, which was a late/late pattern, which came with its own quirks in terms of household formation. We’re going to set the late/late pattern aside for right now, though we will discuss its fertility implications next week.
But I do want to note something about the age ranges here, which is that what we see is not a set number of highly distinct systems, but rather a range of marriage ages that overlap between ‘types.’ Some Roman girls were entering their first marriage in their early or mid-teens, much as would, so far as we can tell, have been typical for Greek girls, while some Roman women only married in their twenties, close to the typical ages for the early modern late/late pattern. That doesn’t make average AAFM a meaningless statistic – what was normal or typical in a society matters – but it is important to keep in mind we’re dealing with something like a continuum of practice rather than a clearly distinct set of buckets (arguably with the exception of the late/late outlier pattern). I think this actually comes out fairly clearly comparing the evidence for Classical Greece, the imperial Roman Italy and Roman Egypt, which despite all being Mediterranean societies with similar agrarian economies, sit at different places on a sliding scale of average AAFM between 14 and 20 – 14-15 for Greece, 17-18 for Egypt, c. 20 for Roman Italy.
But I want to close talking about some of the cultural assumptionsembedded in these different models. Now marriage is a culturally specific institution, so a discussion of it in some general terms is going to smudge over significant differences from one culture to the next. One of these days we’ll need to loop back and discuss Roman families and family law to get more into the weeds on a single specific culture. But there are some things we can say in general.
First, as you will recall these societies are substantially less individualist than most modern societies: they understand individuals primarily as filling a role within a larger community, as parts of a whole, gears in a machine rather than ends to themselves. Thus it neatly follows that they do not understand marriage as an expression of individual love, but rather as an institution important for its communal role. At Athens, the legal formula for marriage specified that it was “for the production of legitimate children” – as both heirs for the father’s family but also as contributing citizen-members of the state; the marriage served the community by creating children, not the individuals being married. It isn’t that these societies have no concept of romantic love, to be clear – they certainly understand both love and lust – but that marriage, as an institution, was at best incidental to those feelings. Instead marriages, in particular first marriages, were almost always arranged by the families of the betrothed.
In that context, marriage became, particularly for women and girls, a key and functionally mandatory stage of progression through society. In Latin, marriage is the dividing line between the puella (‘girl’) and the mulier (‘woman’), uxor (‘wife’) or matrona (‘matron’); and in Greek it is the transition from κόρη (girl, with a strong implication of virginity) or παρθένος (‘maiden’) to γυνή (‘woman’ ‘wife’).19 Marriage was somewhat less defining for grooms but only somewhat less, often a capstone on successful early adulthood rather than the entry to it. In most of these societies, men were not much more in control of their (first) marriages than women: those decisions were made by parents, family and community and intended to serve the interests of the community, rather than the individual.
In both cases, marriage was expected rather than a personal choice; functionally everyone(who lived long enough) got married and then proceeded to have children, if they were able. Doing so was part of the human condition, an essential part of the role of being a son or daughter, a member of the community.
That is not to say all or even most pre-modern marriages were loveless. The texts these societies produce, particularly funerary texts, are full all over of expressions of deep affection for spouses. That may seem strange given that for the most part these people didn’t choose their spouses, but I imagine, dear reader, that you likely care deeply for your parents, siblings or other relatives and you didn’t choose them either.20 While these societies mostly did not expect romantic love within a marriage, there was an expectation of the sort of affection that comes from living and working together with someone to whom your interests and future is tied. Wholly uncaring, callous or negligent spouses were understood in these contexts as both an aberration and also a moral failing: spouses might not have love but they had duties to each other (again, consider the relationship between parents and children or between siblings).
From the British Museum (1805,0703.143), a Roman sarcophagus fragment from the second century CE, showing a Roman marriage ceremony, presumably an idealized version of the deceased’s marriage. Note the beard on the groom, indicating he is well into adulthood.
Patriarchy
These marriage structures were also invariably patriarchal – by which we mean power in the household was concentrated in the male head of household, almost invariably the eldest surviving father – and we should be open about that. Now the ‘RETVRN’ crowd seems to imagine that such arrangements meant that men were ‘in charge,’ but that is a misreading of how these societies are structured: remember these are radically less individualistic societies. The male peasant head of household isn’t the master of his own fate any more than any other member of his family is: he is a cog in a communal machine, bound to obey the dictates of his elders and fill his role in the community. Even once his elders pass away, he remains under the thumb of his social superiors, who like him are also bound by strong social expectations of conduct (and strong social claims by relatives and other connections on his time and resources) that most moderns would find intensely stultifying. Very few people in these societies, male or female, would feel very much in charge of anything. I am struck, for instance, for that a medieval European Christian, be they humble or noble, deciding to take holy orders and become a monk, it was probably the first, last and only true life-choice that person ever made for themselves about the role they would fill in society. In a patriarchal society, males wielded more power, but everyone alike was born into a role they were expected to perform quite regardless of their own wishes, talents or abilities.
All that said, power in the household was concentrated, not in the men generally, but in the male head of household, who owned all of the property and controlled all of the people in the household. Patriarchy, after all, does not mean ‘rule by men’ but ‘rule by fathers‘ and the title is apt for the families formed here.
Which is not to say there was no variation at all. A brief return to the brief comparison of Greek and Roman marriage and family-law customs (I really do need to write this up as a blog post at some point) can serve to demonstrate the range, as the poleis of Greece were some of the most restrictive patriarchies in the ancient Mediterranean and the Romans some of the least restrictive patriarchy (while still very much being a patriarchy). Women in Athens were not legal persons, their consent was, so far as we can tell, neither sought nor necessary to form a marriage. They could not inherit or hold property and indeed there was at Athens (and, it seems, in most if not all other Greek poleis) an office with the power to compel a woman who was the only valid heir to property to remarry (entirely irrespective of her wishes) in order to generate a valid male heir to the property. As far as we can tell, Athenian women could not initiate divorce (but Athenian men could).
By contrast, Roman women were legal persons. A fig-leaf of consent was part of the Roman marriage ritual, although social pressure and the fact that silence constituted consent must have meant the bride’s opinion was rarely decisive. Roman women could and did inherit property and could, upon the deaths of their fathers or husbands (both of whom are likely to be older than them) become legally independent. A Roman widow could not be compelled to remarry and indeed it seems like second marriages – common at Rome, both due to the death of spouses, but also fairly frequent divorce – were often at the discretion of the couple. Roman women could, from at least the second century BC, initiate divorce, taking their dowry and any personal property with them when they did.
Roman society was still very much a patriarchy – the male head of household had patria potestas (‘the fatherly power’), total legal control over the members of his household, controlled the property and exercised tremendous power – to the point of being legally able to kill them – over his children.21 But even a casual glance tells us Roman society allowed remarkably greater latitude for wives. Perhaps unsurprisingly, later average age at first marriage for women seems to correlate with greater freedom for women in that society and from what we’ve seen the Romans largely fit this pattern: as one of the most gender-liberal ancient societies (again, still a patriarchy, we are judging against a very low bar here), they also have one of the latest apparent average female AAFMs in antiquity, sliding into the ‘intermediate’ range above.
Of course brides are only half a marriage and so we should also give some attention to the male marriage patterns implied here. Male average age at first marriage is almost always older than that for females. Even in an early/early pattern, that implies a female average AAFM around 14, 15 or 16, but a male average AAFM generally around 20. In a late-male-marriage pattern, the male AAFM might be as old as thirty. And notably, the common patterns above are (female/male), early/early, early/late, intermediate/late and late/late. Which is to say under all of these pre-modern marriage patterns, grooms will generally be older than brides at first marriage, sometimes much older (notably, this age gap does seem in some societies to narrow for second marriages, again speaking to a situation where first marriages are for the community while second marriages were for the spouses, but of course most individuals only married once). That has its own implications for the structure of power in a household, of course, further reinforcing the patriarchal nature of the household.
But at the same time, that pattern also speaks to how even men are instrumental rather than individual, within a patriarchy because of course we have two models for men: an early model where boys marry while their parents still live and have little if any choice in the matter and a late model where men are made, for social reasons, to delay marriage until fairly late in life, likely also against their actual wishes. I plan to talk about the differential attitudes these societies have to male and female chastity in the next post covering children, but I’ll note that while on the one hand it was common for these societies to have sexual outlets for young men who were not yet of marriageable age, such outlets were mostly available to the wealthy or urban, not to the peasant in a small village.22 Instead, young men chafing, sometimes violently, against family structures which denied them the ability to start households until later in the lives are a common feature of these societies. In Greek literature, for instance, sharp, sometimes violent conflict between fathers and sons is a frequent motif and Greek law with a concern in particular over sons killing their fathers which starts to make a bit more sense when you think about how a late marriage pattern that demands a son delay marriage and household formation until well into adulthood or the death of his father might create intense resentment and anger.
Of course, marriage is only half of the story in family formation: the other half is children. And indeed, as we’ll see, pre-modern peasant societies generally understood these two as parts of a whole, to the point that a marriage without children might not be much of a marriage at all (barrenness, almost always blamed on the woman, was often a valid reason for divorce even in cultures that otherwise did not accept divorce). So now that we have our marriage pattern, next week we’ll begin looking at childbirth and child rearing.