The little things are going to be the hardest

[jducoeur]

I just went to my Facebook page, and realized another little trauma that I'll have to deal with eventually. I've been putting off removing my wedding ring -- I'll have to eventually (maybe after the Memorial Service), but that's *hard*. And now I realize that someday I'm going to have to change my FB Relationship Status to "single". I'm honestly unsure which of those is going to be more difficult. There are dangers in being sensitive to symbolism, and both of these are powerful symbols -- one very classic, one very modern.

(I *am* still having a broadly good week. But the little notes of melancholy still lurk around the edges...)

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[pryder]

I went with widowed for my relationship status on Facebook. I plan to keep that until the one year anniversary, and then change it to whatever the state of my current relationship is at the time. Yes, I'm currently in a relationship, but right now I still feel that "widowed" most accurately reflects my feelings.

As for the ring, I had mostly gotten out of the habit of wearing it during the final few months; maybe I was getting myself ready in advance. I still wear the oak leaves and acorns ring sometimes (that's one that Marian had made for me years before we married); that one feels like "honoring our history" rather than proclaiming that I am (or was) married.